How do you grow closer to your partner? With the responsibilities of everyday life, it is easy to fall into a routine, especially in your relationship. Routines can create habits that are both good and bad for us. Relationship routines can be successful when they are filled with intention and love. However, you must make sure that these habits don’t cause you to simply go through the motions of your relationship. Instead, choose habits that help you to actively pursue your partner. Relationships require active effort from both partners in order to succeed. Luckily, there are intentional habits that you can easily implement in your daily life to help you grow closer in love.
When couples focus only on their individual interests instead of coming together in their relationship, the connection between partners can be damaged, or even dissolve. Work to strengthen your couple’s connection a little bit each day. Growing closer to your partner in each of the following areas will strengthen your relationship and increase your love for one another.
Nine Ways to Grow Closer to Your Partner
One way to grow closer as a couple is to connect emotionally.
Being tuned in to each other’s feelings can help you to better understand each other’s intentions and actions. Knowing what your partner is feeling is crucial for supporting them. Similarly, your partner needs to know how you feel in order to be there for you. Check-in with your partner daily and initiate open communication about both of your feelings.
2. Intellectually
Sharing thoughts, ideas, opinions, and beliefs can connect you on a deeper level.
By talking regularly you can make sure that you are on the same page as a couple. It is important that you and your partner express what you are thinking about your present and future. During your next date night bring up a belief that you both share to get the conversation started.
3. Aesthetically
Enjoying the beauty and delights of life together strengthens your relationship bond.
We all need a chance to slow down and appreciate our gorgeous surroundings. Try watching the sunset together, going for a walk, or visiting a park. The experience does not need to be extravagant as long as you are together sharing the experience.
4. Recreationally
Finding hobbies that you can do together will create fun and excitement in your relationship.
Is there anything more fun than sharing a hobby with your partner? Discover something that you both enjoy, and chances are you will learn more about each other in the process.
5. Collaboratively
Helping each other to accomplish daily tasks and chores will assist you in coming together as a team.
No one wants to do the dishes, especially alone! If you learn to share the small challenges of life like laundry, you will be better equipped to handle the larger ones too! Next time there is a household chore, remember to tackle it together.
6. Supportively
Leaning on each other when times get tough can strengthen appreciation and trust.
As a couple, you must be able to be there for each other in joyful, sad, exciting, scary, and difficult situations. Reminding each other that you are there is a good first step to supporting each other.
7. Sexually
Bonding through physical intimacy is another way to feel closer to your relationship.
Strengthening your couple’s connection through physical touch can be done by holding hands, massages, hugs, cuddle sessions, kisses, and having sex. Aim to have a variety of physical intimacy with your partner, and don’t be afraid to mix it up.
8. Spiritually
Growing together in faith can be a great way to relate with your partner.
When you share a similar faith or belief system it gives you both something to believe in, and strive to work towards. Regardless of what you believe, make sure you and your partner can support each other in your faith, and use it to grow closer as a couple.
9. Committedly
Showing commitment to the relationship will increase relationship satisfaction and security.
Planning for your future together, expressing relationship intentions, and showing how you are going to continually grow closer together.
Growing together as partners is not something that can be accomplished overnight. Unifying as a couple takes practice, time, and attention. The best time to start coming together in your relationship is now!
The RELATE Assessment gives you an in-depth look at how you and your partner view your relationship. Many couples use RELATE as a starting place for improving relationship wellness. Find out how you and your partner RELATE by taking the assessment today.
Looking for more information on how to grow closer to your partner? Check out this article on growing closer to an avoidant partner and learn how to further your relationship insight.
[Much of this blog is taken from Dr. Steve Stephens http://www.drstevestephens.com/ ]
